For months we have been working through some bullying issues that Bella is going through at school. It is really hard for me to wrap my mind around the fact that my 5 year old is being bullied by a child her own age.
MAKES.ME.SICK.
HURTS.MY.HEART.
After numerous talks with her, the teacher, and the principal I think that things are getting better. Thank goodness for spring break and soon to be summer vacation.
Hate that my sweet tiny girl is growing up so fast.
I work 4 days a week as the Marketing Coordinator for a local pharmacy and I have experienced my share of difficult people, but today I had numerous situations where customers were just flat out RUDE. I will NEVER in my life understand why grown people choose to be hateful, disrespectful, or just rude to the folks that work in the communities to serve them.
THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR THIS. EVER.
After about the 3rd incident today my hurt feelings were soon turning into a poor attitude. It made me think deeper about what little ones must feel like when they are being picked on. If I myself, as a grown woman will let others be disrespectful to me, I can only imagine how helpless a child must feel in that situation.
This also made me realize that it isn't just children, youth, and college age kids that can be bullies.....
THEY ARE ADULTS TOO.
DISGUSTING HUH?
I can't imagine raising my child to talk down to others, to be disrespectful to their peers, or have no sense of the value of relationships. It is our job as parents and adults to instill these characteristics in our children.
LEAD BY EXAMPLE.
I am not perfect citizen, or parent and I am not claiming to have never had an attitude (those that know me well know how stubborn and hard-headed I am).
A few weeks ago Lauren and I were shopping and a lady in line next to us was just awful to the sales clerk. We both stood there with our jaws to the floor (and I'm certain we were giving the lady the death ray glare), when we left I smiled at the clerk and told her to have a good day. I don't know if it made a difference in her day but I wanted her to know that we all don't behave that way.
SMILING IS CONTAGIOUS.
BULLYING IS DISGUSTING.
When that waitress or pharmacy tech doesn't do something just how you think it should be done cut them some slack. You never know what challenges a person is facing in there life. There also may be little eyes watching how you treat others and how you react to certain situations.
LEAD BY EXAMPLE.
Talk with your children every day about what is going on at school. Talk about BULLIES. Talk about what they eat for lunch. Talk about recess and show n' tell.
IT'S ALL IMPORTANT.
I hope you all spend your weekends making wonderful memories. Bella and I will be crafting our booty's off in the studio tomorrow! HAPPY DAY!
I can so relate!! Jasmine( 6yrs old) and i are dealing with this also and it has been hard and such a eye opener to me how teachers and parents tolerate bullying in school and my kid goes to a Christian school even!! Crazy it happens anywhere..Praying for you and your girl hoping things can get better for her at school soon:)) And thank god for Summer break too!
ReplyDeleteI just don't remember this type of stuff happening when I was that young. It makes me so sad for children to have to deal with bullying. We will say our prayers that things get better for your little one too!
DeleteDo I count as a bully for screaming at my renter? Luckily no little ears were around to hear it...but the neighbors may have gotten an ear-full. They may or may not be scared of me.
ReplyDeleteNo! You absolutely had the right to loose your cool. I would have done the same.
DeleteDarby! I can't imagine that sweet little girl going through that! But she is lucky to have amazing parents who pay attention and will take care of her. I totally agree about people in general. You learn a lot about a person by the way they treat public servants. Most days, I feel like giving up on people but then someone like you comes along and brightens my day!
ReplyDelete--Robin
Oh man I am so so sorry about your little one getting picked on and bullied. I know how awful it can be, I was bullied something awful and my daughter was in 6th grade, but then it stopped, thank heavens. But I was brutally bullied, it is unspeakable. But what helps too is to remember that the kids bullying, have something going on with them that they can't help. They are children, and I know you know this, but it helped to remember that poor kid that is bullying too, because they must have something awful going on at home etc...they are looking for attention or something..it's a deeper thing there.. poor kids all around.
ReplyDeleteI always try to look at things through the heart of our Lord. I mean think of how Jesus would look at this. He would hate what was happening, but love on the person doing it. Which is exactly what you modeled for your daughter in the store! All we can do is that. Push through and literally WWJD.
Oh keep us posted on your girl, I'm glad it's getting a little better!!! Thanks for sharing this with us!